Clik here to view.
6 Steps to Supporting a Survivor
“You can change someone’s life, I promise.”These are the words that Raul Esparza shares in one of the newest videos for the Law & Order: SVU #NOMOREexcuses marathon in support of Sexual Assault...
View ArticleClik here to view.
We're Calling on You
As we reflect on Joyful Heart’s journey, we feel deeply grateful to you—our joyful community. Together we are changing the way society talks about, thinks about and responds to victims of sexual...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Don't Forgive
Aren't we survivors constantly bombarded with the suggestion (or demand), "You need to forgive"? Don't we hear that message proclaimed among therapists, preachers, teachers and especially our friends?...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: I'm Lonely
Matt, a 51-year-old farmer and an online friend, sent me an email about his intense loneliness:"I go to bed at night feeling a void that's been there since I was a child—a void that causes me either to...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Those Flashbacks
A man who chose to remain anonymous wrote me recently after reading one of my books and said, "It gave me great encouragement through a very tough time last year with flashbacks that I was getting from...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: We Were There
"You're a special kid." I still remember those words spoken to me when I was six or seven years old. He showed me that I was someone he cared about by inviting me into his room, giving me small gifts,...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: It Takes Time
"I was a mess, and I couldn't take the emotional chaos any longer." Although the words differ, this is a message I receive regularly. They're from men who are tired of running from their pain or...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: We Are Survivors
Early in my healing process, I read an online article. I’ve long forgotten the title and the author; however, one statement went something like this: there is nothing wrong with us; something wrong was...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Be Kind
At the end of emails to good friends, I sometimes add these words: "Be kind to [name] today." Occasionally I'll add, "[Name] is someone I like very much and deserves the kindness."Not everyone responds...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Shame: It’s a Dead-End Street
It’s been nearly 30 years, but I still remember saying the words that I’ve heard from so many others: "the shame isn’t mine, it’s his."I can’t help but feel sometimes that everything negative leads...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Hope for the Holidays
Hope for the HolidaysI’m not sure of the source or when I first leaned the phrase, but this holiday season I find myself most grateful for the understanding that “healing is a process, not an event.”...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Victim/Survivor vs. Survivor/Thriver
We are told not to use the word victim. Nobody wants to identify with being victimized. The words that are preferred are survivor and thriver, or warrior for those who are out leading the movement on...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Becoming a Village
There’s power in numbers. Last weekend, in a gallery in New York City, I saw that power come to life in a remarkable exhibition of The Bristlecone Project, a collection of photographic portraits of men...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Doing It Alone
"Two people listened when I told them. They didn't condemn or belittle me.""What helped you the most in your healing?" a radio host asked me. "Two people listened when I told them," I said without...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Present for the Holidays
In the holiday season, there are lots of chances to relearn the healing power of giving, even when we’re feeling our own fears and unmet needs rise to the surface. But I’m reminded of the airline...
View ArticleAfter St. George’s: Responding Differently, Together
The revelation this week about decades of unaddressed sexual abuse and assault at a New England school offers some important reminders about the power of community. The voices of more than 40 men and...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Partners in Healing
My wife, Shonna Milliken Humphrey, has been an intimate witness to my struggle with the legacy of my childhood sexual abuse, and a primary agent of my healing. In turn, I have seen the pain,...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Sexual Abuse of Men - Bringing the Issue to Times Square
Two Mondays ago, I was sitting in a car on a side street in Times Square. It was surreal.Nine years ago, we launched the non-profit you know as 1in6 to support men who had unwanted or abusive sexual...
View ArticleClik here to view.
April: A Month of Healing, Education and Advocacy
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month and National Child Abuse Prevention Month. For many of us, it will be marked by awareness-raising efforts, days of remembrance and calls to action. It will be a...
View ArticleClik here to view.
1in6 Thursday: Hope Wins
An ancient lesson about overcoming fearI was reminded recently of an important lesson about trauma recovery. The teacher was the son of a friend, a young man who spoke at his bar mitzvah about the...
View Article